Shalom,
I was conversing with a group of friends this morning when one behaved in a way that seemed protective of me. I felt resentment thinking "I can take care of myself. I don't need your protection". Then I remembered that out of my behavior in the past he could have concluded that I did need his protection, so I withdrew from the conversation thinking of a way to behave in the future that might demonstrate that I could take care of my reaction.
Once the conversation was over my friend and I had a little chat and he reminded me that I don't have to do the work all by myself; I could ask him not to protect me emotionally for the next week or so and see what happens in the interaction. That is a short cut based on communication and caring.
I really liked that. The idea that I don't have to do the work all by myself, I have friends who help me on my way. I have certainly lucked out in the friends department.
love,
aviva
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This sounds good, reality is often different than expected. And though i agree that you have lucked out in the friend dept, I also know you work hard to create and maintain that. (Thanks!)-Elke
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