Whose movie is it anyway?

I had a conflict with my friend. She was on her way out worrying about a room we did not prepare for a guest who was supposed to come that evening. She asked me in a very tensed voice why it wasn't ready by then. I answered with an equally tensed voice that we were supposed to go and see it together the following day. She was getting more and more frustrated and enraged. I was getting more and more anxious and confused. We parted ways. She went to yoga fuming. I went to set that room wondering what went wrong.

And this is what I came up with.

We all have an agenda when we speak. We want to deliver a message. Often the person who listens to us creates a different agenda the moment they hear our first sentence. When that happens we are all in trouble. Which one is the feature movie, and which is the preview for future screening? When we agree on the feature movie things go smoothly. When we fight over it we create misunderstanding.

My friend's "movie" was about setting the room before the guests arrives. My "movie" was to establish that I was not to be blamed for the situation. Two "movies" were running towards each other seeing a crash in sight.

If I yielded to my friend and put my agenda aside, she would have felt relieved that her worries are addressed. I would have felt good taking care of business.
Why should "I" put my agenda aside and not demand that she does? Because it doesn't work this way. I have no control over what she does or not. I can only take care of my "movie screening". It is either happening now or sometime in the future when my friend is more inclined in watching it.
I was thinking that this is what Rabbi Jesus meant when he suggested people to give "the other cheek" to their opponent - go with the already running script and see where it leads you instead of running a parallel one.

What do you think?